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Thursday, April 21, 2016

How to deal with negativity - 5 Tips

Hi Dolls!

This post will be quite different from my usual uploads. I want to talk about a matter that happens to all of us, be it in a personal or work environment. So grab a big cup of tea/coffee and let me share my  5 tips on dealing with bad vibes.
To be honest I don't often get negative comments or remarks, however they sometimes pop up. I've said this before, but there is a big difference between positively criticising, where you're genuinely trying to help someone, and straight up nasty or mean observations. Even though I don't always accomplish to detach myself, I've improved and learned that not everyone gets a say in my life. So here are my pieces of advice for you:

1. Do NOT get sucked in or affected! I'm so bad with this one, you have no idea. 
Sometimes people are mean because they are angry, without actually being it your fault. This does not justify rude ass comments. However, realistically speaking everyone has bad days, maybe in their anger they say something which they will later regret. Of course, it could be also out of jealousy or envy or just boredom. People do and say stupid things without thinking all the time, so what good would it bring you to get affected? 

2. Do NOT under any circumstances respond or reciprocate! 
If said person is being intentionally mean, the worst thing would be to answer. It will only bring them satisfaction and they might continue to bother you even more. Even if you think it would make you happy to make a smart remark, you're actually feeding the "evil".  Reciprocating would only stoop you to their level and why would you burden yourself with the negativity?! Better grab a cup of tea to calm down and let your actions speak, this will prove them wrong. 

3. Know your worth/truth! 
Don't doubt yourself because of some crude remark, especially when it comes from someone who doesn't personally know you. If it's a friend or family member that are trying to help you improve and grow, they will communicate everything in a positive note without trying to make you second guess yourself. Learn to differentiate constructive observations from shabby ones. 

4. Organise your time carefully! 
The people you spend time with are constantly influencing you and of course you them. If they are negative persons you might slowly become like them, without wanting to. Here I'm not talking about a negativity which is directed towards you, but overall. Be mindful of your time, because you won't get it back. 

5. Let go! 
Even though it might hurt, sometimes it's best to just let go and move on. There's no need or place in your life for negativity. Of course if it's something that occurs in the workplace, you can't just quit. However you can choose to spend your time with more positive minded colleagues. If you're feeling sad/angry/pessimistic sometimes, don't worry, it's normal as long as you're not trying to put other's down in order to make yourself feel better. 

There you have it! Hope this helps at least a little.

Have a pink-tastic day!
Kisses.


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  1. These are some great tips! But sometimes its just hard not to react or not be affected. This is a really great reminder and helpful. Thanks :)

    <3 | >.< | Aly In Wanderland | Alyssa X

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  2. Knowing your worth is very important and sometimes it's hard not to get sucked into negativity. This post is very inspiring :)

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  3. Your looks amazing! Beautiful outfit!
    anastasiafox.ru

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  4. These are such great tips! It's a shame that some people are mean and negative. I was always taught that if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all. Great post!
    ~Lili
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  5. Take note babe!
    Much love.
    xxx

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  6. Thanks for sharing dear :) I am trying to be as happy as it is possible ♥ xx
    Simona | liveinfoxworld.blogspot.com

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  7. What a beautiful post. This has got to be my favorite one I've read today! Thank you for sharing this ;) It's refreshing...

    XOXO
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  8. É tão difícil lidar com pessoas negativas. Adorei as dicas, acho que o melhor é manter distância

    Beijos!

    EsmaltadasdaPatyDomingues

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  9. Thank you for this post !

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  10. Great post!!! :))

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  11. Nice post. Really positive.

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  12. this is great! and that photo is perfect for it...nothing better than letting go! x http://www.the-beautiful-things.com/

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  13. Great tips but it's so difficult to accomplish them sometimes.
    xx

    Eli

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  14. What a lovely post! I think we could all take some advice from this x

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  15. Great tips dear! They are really helpful! Thank you for sharing! :)
    Have a wonderful week!
    XO Pisa
    www.inlovewithmyclothes.com

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  16. Such lovely advice! Great blog girlie.

    ❤︎
    Dakota D.
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  17. Love this post!

    XO, Jessi
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  18. Nice tips!
    More than good!
    XX
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  19. Thanks so much for sharing these tips! Great blog :) x

    Nev | Miss Nev

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  20. great advice! couldn't agree more! :D

    Have a great day!
    Animated Confessions

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  21. These are all great things to keep in mind. It's so hard to get yourself out of your own head and keep things in perspective sometimes. Thanks for this positive post! :)
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  22. It's a very positive post, dear! I get nasty comments all the time, sometimes, it makes me almost speechless :(

    Take care,
    Rizuna from 100% Nerd

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  23. These are such wonderful tips. And you're right, you can't get sucked in or become affected by negativity. It will bring you down when you don't need to be. I so loved reading this.

    Kia / KTS
    www.houseofkts.com

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  24. I haven't experienced such negative attitudes through me yet, and hopefully I will not! It's something that no one should ever not to do. Of course, we must be able to criticize but this must be in a positive way and must help that person improve.Kisses,
    Nazlıgül | on my own way

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  25. loving the long vest! btw i think the most effective step is to just let go. people tend to put their ego first instead of just move one. great tips!

    VVEEKEND 101

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  26. Awesome tips! Thanks for sharing dear!
    Xoxo,
    Love from www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

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  27. Fortunately I'm yet to deal with this though I do hope I would be able to shrug it off. It's easy to think so then to be actually experiencing though.

    Sxx
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  28. Great Tips but shrugging off is so hard to learn..It takes time
    XOXO
    Geri Diaries

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  29. Great tips. Sometimes is hard not to respond equally, but I am trying to give yourself time before I respond. That is why I will be a little bit calmer.

    March and May

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  30. These are great tips, it's hard not to get affected by negative comments but like you said, we have to keep in mind that everyone has a bad day and that it's them, not us - so we shouldn't take it personal. xx

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  31. Interesting post! :)
    You look great here!

    XX,
    Photography & Fashion Blog

    CHRISTINA KEY
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  32. your tips are for real <3

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  33. Great tips. I recently had to deal with a lot of negativity and after a while I decided to let go. There is no point to surround yourself with negative people.

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  34. Amazing tips, honey :)
    We have to know that we deserve much better than what other people think.

    Love, Marie Roget | Marie Roget Shop

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  35. this is so helpful thanks! x

    jess x | wellwellgirls.blogspot.com

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  36. It's really funny how one negative comment or word from 100 positive can really affect a person, that you forget all those positive. These are good tips.
    Have a lovely weekend!
    xoxo
    Ramona

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  37. Nice post!!!!
    Chiara
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  38. These are all so true! It is so difficult to get caught up in negativity and lose touch with the sweet, positive everyday things. Such a great post, love xx

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  39. Great tips, I've had a couple of negative comments before but I haven't let them bother me!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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  40. Agree in all points! So true!
    It's so important to not let anyone bring you down with their negativity!
    xoxo Kathi

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  41. love the advice! Luckily I haven't had any bad comments, hope I don't. I don't do well with negativity. But tbh, I will probably just delete it straight away.. I don't have time for that! lol

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  42. You're absolutely right about 'feeding the evil' - not responding is the best way to react to negativity! I love the positive, encouraging vibe of this post :)

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    x

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  43. Totally agreed with you. Likes your facebook fanpage ! :)
    Much love from Indonesia <3

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  44. We all need this tips in our life. Great pist babe! Happy weekend!
    Xo, Christianne
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  45. Amazing tips, very helpful !! :)

    Safia xx
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  46. It can be so hard to not have the last word when someone is negative towards you but it's only what they want in the end
    The Lipstick, The Girl and Her Wardrobe

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  47. Thanks for the great tips girl.Very helpful! Love your look, btw. Happy weekend!
    Much love, Len
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  48. indeed useful and unfortunately needful tips! thanks for sharing

    Lyosha
    Inside and Outside Blog

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  49. Great tips! they're very helpful! thanks for sharing :)

    xx Jamie | With Love, Jamie

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  50. Thank you fr the tips! "Don't doubt yourself because of some crude remark" I often get bad critics but I it is very helpful to me. The next time I'll be more aware about the last critics that I get.

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  51. Insightful tips @carina. Totally inspired to write something similar after a negative encounter a few days ago.
    please feel free to check it out on www.mhissnanastyle.com

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  52. These tips are so helpful and positive! Just what I needed to read...thank you for these kind and wise words.

    Best wishes...

    Keep Calm and start writing
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    Xxx

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